Co-Parenting.

Here's what he said to me:

"There's a lady in my group who is so good at 'co-parenting' with her ex-husband that her children don't even know they're from a broken home."

In all fairness, I started the conversation by suggesting some thoughts I had that might help us better parent our children consistently. And I do, with all that I am, want to figure out how to have a relationship with him that will always be beneficial for our two sweet babies.

This, though, is how I responded to his comment:

"I never, ever want the kids to think that divorce is okay."

I hesitated to say it, but it's true. I don't care how well we get this whole "co-parenting" thing down (and I pray that we do get it down), I don't ever want my children to think that divorce is an acceptable answer to their marital issues. I don't ever want them thinking that divorce was an acceptable answer to my marital issues. I want my kids to know and believe and hold fast to all that is written in the Bible, and I want nothing more than to learn how to be appropriately transparent with them; to be honest about my flaws and shortcomings and sins in a way that glorifes God and helps them grow in their own relationships with Him.

I want them, though, to know that this "broken family" is not what covenant looks like, no matter how well they think their father and I can "co-parent."

So how do I teach them those things without sabotaging the relationship they share with their earthly father? I mean, I'm aware of the fact that these conversations are years and years away for me, but the implications of my future words weigh heavy on my heart now.

God, give me wisdom. I so desperately need it.

And bless my children with wisdom and a knowledge of You that surpasses their age. May they always have a desire to seek Truth, and may they thirst after Your Word with their entire being.

Amen.